Katheryn Hudson on The Therapist

Came across this on Vice’s youtube channel yesterday. At this point, most of what i knew about Katy Perry was just.. her shoulder-length black hair, she’s a firework, or we’re fireworks, and she’s super popular. Her music never really drew me in, nor her pop persona. I am now totally in love with her (well, as much as one could love after watching an interview).

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Little did i know, behind the vibrant “Katy Perry” was Katheryn Hudson, a younger, “less evolved” (her words) version of her current self. “I didn’t feel like I was enough, so I had to kind of create this character of myself.”

What spoke to me is her desire for authenticity. In this beautiful interview, she reveals her inner struggles and journey. She talks about her family, and how incredibly close they are. She talks about the Universe and intuition and following her heart.

In a world where it’s often not safe to be ourselves, people with the courage to step into the arena and live from their hearts are pillars of hope for us all, and inspire us to live our best life in full alignment with who we are. Thank you, Katheryn!

It was definitely worth my while to watch. Linking it here!

Welcome – Alan D. Thompson

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Treat a man as he is, and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he could be, and he will become what he should be.”51kYIzOpoiL

An incredibly synchronistic encounter led me to this book. Welcome is a succinct repository of timeless knowledge pulled from different fields. It is practical and provides a guide map for deeper reflection. Instead of giving answers, Welcome invites you to dive inward (luckily with probing questions!), as we each have the answers inside of us.

“Everyone has their own voice and their own inspiration. It can be tempting to start listening to someone else’s frequency: bosses, internet forums, teachers, the media. But if you are listening to their expression in place of your own expression, something is missing, and your performance won’t be at its peak. When you listen to your own music, you know it. It’s inspiring, freeing and thrilling.”

Above and beyond all that, what spoke to me most was the humanness behind his words. They are kind, understanding, encouraging, and really spoke to a part of me that was hibernating. It reminds me of how Wayne Dyer always talked about not letting the music die inside of us.

I hope that Alan’s personal touch and stories sit with you and inspire you – don’t let your music die inside! (I am currently reading Best (same author), and will post about this when i am done.)

Fall in love with yourself – Will Pye

Excerpt from Will’s book Blessed with a Brain Tumor.

“There is a common misconception that we must deny ourselves and give to others first in order to be “good.” In truth, to give anything to anyone, I must first possess it. I can offer you only the love present in my experience. If there is a part of me that I loathe, I will loathe it in you. It is only once I have made peace with my foibles and imperfections, my darkness and my shameful secrets, that I meet you, with yours, in peace. It is only when I realize I am whole and complete, as I am, that I can see you the same way. My offering you unconditional love is dependent on me first allowing it for myself. Your receiving it is dependent on your relationship with yourself.”

Mean people don’t suck: The Rosetta Stone for “Knowing thy Enemy”

Charles Eisenstein: “Judgment toward them reflects only our lack of understanding, not any fundamental difference in our core being.”

Pam Grout

Once, in a three-bedroom pension in Austria, I got locked in a tiny bathroom. I hollered out to my hosts, “Help! I can’t open the lock.” They spoke no English so obviously they didn’t rush to my aid. Instead, they probably scratched their head, wondering what the crazy American girl was yammering about so early in the morning.

Not wanting to miss even an hour of my fabulous solo Eurail adventure, I got louder and louder in my attempts to arouse their assistance. Finally, they came to the door and started asking what I presumed were questions, but since I speak no German, I had no idea what they were asking.

This story (and, yes, for those who are wondering, I finally did get free from that tiny 3-foot by 4-foot lock-up) demonstrates what I think is going on in the world today, particularly American politics. People are speaking two…

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On Non-duality and the consciousness of things

Thich Nhat Hanh

“When we look into our cells as a human being we see that the human being is made only of non-human elements. We have the mineral element in us, we have the element of vegetable in us and we have the element ‘animal’ in us. Not only do we have human ancestors but we also have animal ancestors and vegetable ancestors and also mineral ancestors; and our ancestors do not belong only to the past – they belong to the present. They are fully present in us. Without them we cannot see the way we see, we cannot think the way we think, we cannot live the way we live. And the electron is also in us. So when I produce a thought every ancestors in me including the mineral, vegetable and animal ancestors, collaborate with me in order to produce that thought.

It’s like when you see – you look at the tree. That is not the job of only your eyes, as you know very well. Without the brain, without the blood, without the cells in your body, without all that, the ‘seeing’ would be an impossible thing for eyes.

When the eyes ‘see’ the whole body is participating in the act of seeing. When we produce a thought, when we reason, when we create music, when we do mathematics, not only a number of neurons are doing so, but the whole body – the whole lineage of ancestors in us are participating in producing that thought.

So looking like that you see that you are made of ‘non-you’ elements and that the non-you elements continue to be in you and if you take the non-you elements out, there is no more ‘you’ left.

We have the complex of superiority as human beings and we think we have that kind of intelligence, that kind of consciousness that other living beings do not have. But I’m not very proud of that kind of mind that we are using in daily life: the mind of discrimination caught by many notions, the foundation of all kind of suffering. We discriminate against this and that, and that creates complexes of superiority, inferiority, and equality.

(gestures to an orchid) This plant has intelligence, this plant has knowledge, this plant has a will to live. This plant knows how to fabricate flowers and fruit and how to continue to live in the best way it can. And it seems to me that this plant is creating less suffering than we human beings. I am not very proud of my mind of discrimination. Therefore I am free from the complex of ‘superiority of a human being’. I know that I can do better.

That is why when you produce a thought, Mother Earth is producing that thought together with you. Don’t say that you are alone producing that thought. Mother Earth is in you at the foundation and she is producing that thought with you at the same time. This thought is not your property. This thought that is produced is a creation of the whole Earth – and not only the Earth, the Sun also, because without the Sun the Earth can not be herself; she is not able to create you and to bring you into existence.

So that is the mind of Non-discrimination. As far as you use the mind of discrimination to judge and to organize, you continue to create suffering. That is why it’s so important to learn how to remove notions that are at the foundation of separation and discrimination.”

Jordan Peterson transcript: Say what you think

“One way of conceptualizing yourself is that you’re one speck of dust among 7 billion. And when you conceptualize yourself that way, you might think, well what difference does it make what i say or do?” And that’s actually quite convenient for you because if it doesn’t matter what you say or do then you don’t have any responsibility and you can do whatever you want. The price you pay for that is a bit of nihilism but if you don’t have to shoulder any responsibility that’s a small price to pay. Another – that’s the underground motivation for nihilism.

The other way of looking at it – and this is actually the accurate way of looking at it – is that you’re in a network – you’re a node in a network, so, you can do a little arithmetic very rapidly and just figure out how powerful you are. You know a thousand people. You’re gonna know more than that over the course of your life, but let’s say a thousand for the sake of argument for now. They know a thousand people. That means that you’re one person away from a million people and two persons away from a billion people. And you’re the centre of that network. And now the way networks work is that information propagates in a network manner.

So don’t underestimate the power of your speech.

Now, you know, Western culture is (…) logo-centric let’s say, so we say, yeah, that’s just fine, that’s exactly what it is. It is predicated on the idea of the logos. That the logos is the sacred element of Western culture. And what does that mean? It means that your capacity for speech is divine. It’s the thing that generates order from chaos, and then sometimes turns pathological order into chaos when it has to.

Don’t underestimate the power of truth – there is nothing more powerful. 

Now in order to speak what you might regard as the truth, you have to let go of the outcome. You have to think: Alright i’m gonna say what i think, stupid as i am, biased as i am, ignorant as i am, i am going to state what i think as clearly as i can. And i’m going to live with the consequences no matter what they are.

Now the reason you think that – that’s an element of Faith. The idea is that nothing brings a better world into being than the stated truth. Now you might have to pay a price for that, but that’s fine. You’re going to pay a price for every bloody thing you do. And everything you don’t do. You don’t get to choose to not pay a price. You get to choose which poison you’re going to take.  That’s it. 

So if you’re going to stand up for something, stand up for your truth. It’ll shape you because people will respond and object and tell you why you’re a fool and a biased moron and why you’re ignorant. And then if you listen to them, you’ll be just that much less like that the next time you say something. And if you do that for five years, you’ll be so damn tough and articulate and able to communicate and withstand pressure that you won’t even recognize yourself. And then you’ll be a force to contend with. And you don’t get to wait until.. Because i get letters like … gets all the time from faculty members in particularly that say, Well, you know, when i get tenure, it’s like, and then they think, well when i’m an associate professor, and then they think, when i’m a full professor. It’s like, if you’re a professor already, you’re like the most protected person on the history of the planet. You know? And you (…) well, okay but what one of the things that indicates is that it is almost impossible to provide people with enough protection so that they feel safe to speak.

Okay so we’ll address that directly – it is not safe to speak, and it never will be. But the thing you’ve got to keep in mind is that it is even less safe not to speak, right? It’s a balance of risks. It’s like you want to pay the price for being who you are and stating your mode of being in the world or do you want to pay the price for being a bloody serf – one that’s enslaved him or herself. Well that’s a major price, man. That thing unfolds over decades and you’ll just be a miserable worm at the end of about 20 years of that, right? No self respect, no power, no ability to voice your opinions, nothing left but resentment because everyone’s against you, because of course you’ve never stood up for yourself. It’s like, say what you think carefully, pay attention to your words. The price is – it’s a price you want to pay, if you are willing to believe that truth is the cornerstone of society. and in the most real sense, if you’re willing to take that leap, then tell the truth and see what happens, and nothing better could possibly happen to you. There’ll be ups and downs and there’ll be pushback and it’ll be controversy and all of that, but it doesn’t matter. The truth is what makes the world – the truth is what redeems the world from hell. And that’s the truth.  And we saw plenty of hell over the last 100 years, you know, and we haven’t learned a bloody thing from it. It’s like, wake up! Tell the truth! Tell the truth or at least don’t lie and that’s a start. And you gotta understand that’s a risk. But i will – I have one more brief thing to say about that.

So, you know, i said what i had to say back in September and i’m sure that i could have done it better and many people have told me how i could have done it better, although it didn’t mean they would actually do it, but… And you know, my job was at risk, serious risk for about two months, it destabilized my family who were being very brave about this, so like thumbs up to them man, they just stood by me.

But here’s the optimistic news, is the university has left me alone completely. I shook hands with the dean two weeks ago. We’re on friendly terms. They don’t want this to go any farther than it has already. The students were tremendously welcoming when i came back to teach in January. I haven’t had a single negative incident at the university and I’ve received thousands of letters from people all over the world – all of which have been in support. I received two negative letters – that’s it. Two. So the people.. people have an inchoate longing to have this sort of thing that we’re talking about articulated, and so don’t be thinking you’re alone. It’s just that people can’t talk, they’re afraid to talk or they don’t know what to say. And those are real problems, so if you’re reasonably articulate, like start talking and sharpen yourself up. I mean, the enemy is a cloud. They’re a cloud of gnats, they’re only courageous in groups, they’re only courageous in mobs. If you stand your ground and don’t apologize and articulate things properly, they’ll disperse around you like they’re not even there. So most of it’s illusion. So don’t be… be afraid, but be afraid of the right thing. And the right thing you should be afraid of is not saying what you say, because that’s the same as not being. And here you are suffering away. You might as well be at the same time. At least then there’s something to you.” 

Psychology of Self with Jordan Peterson

I took a Psychology of Self course in 2nd year and it was very memorable. 3 events stand out:

  • The dragon in the house – he shared this children’s story of a dragon in a house. The mom keeps denying there is a dragon. The dragon grows larger and larger until it takes over the whole house. Then finally the mom yells to get the dragon out of the house and it instantly becomes small again –> the power of repression
  • He was handing back assignments, and he waited until the very end to give mine back. By then, the class had pretty much emptied out. I walked over and was quite concerned – had i failed??? When he handed it back to me, he handed it directly to me and said… *this is when my heart dropped lol* – he said something to the effect of – it was really well done. That doesn’t really happen to me – only twice… hmm..
  • Lion King & other Disney movies – Carl Jung & archetypes (i have since found this lecture online – exciting!!)

So i was browsing facebook when a video popped out to me. It had the words “THIS IS WHY I ALWAYS SAY WHAT I THINK REGARDLESS OF CONSEQUENCES” and no subtitles, so i had to click it to watch. I usually never watch these videos. This one reached out to me so i did. The man was REALLY well spoken, like Kristnamurti, and it so tickled me that i wanted to see who he is and look more into it.

Jordan Peterson.

I instantly remembered who it was. Isn’t this insane??? I even have that dragon book still… The Universe is amazing.

Eric Fromm – The Art of Loving

“Responsibility could easily deteriorate into domination and possessiveness, were it not for a third component of love, respect. Respect is not fear and awe; it denotes, in accordance with the root of the word (respicere = to look at), the ability to see a person as he is, to be aware of his unique individuality Respect means the concern that the other person should grow and unfold as he is. Respect, thus, implies the absence of exploitation. I want the loved person to grow and unfold for his own sake, and in his own ways, and not for the purpose of serving me. If i love the other person, I feel one with him or her, but with him as he is, not as I need him to be as an object for my use.

To respect a person is not possible without knowing him; care and responsibility would be blind if they were not guided by knowledge. Knowledge would be empty if it were not motivated by concern. There are many layers of knowledge; the knowledge which is an aspect of love is one which does not stay at the periphery, but penetrates to the core. it is possible only when i can transcend the concern for myself and see the other person in his own terms. (to get away from the self-referential nature of …) I may know, for instance, that a person is angry, even if he does not show it overtly; but I may know him more deeply than that; then I know that he is anxious, and worried; that he feels lonely, that he feels something deeper, and I see him as anxious and embarrassed, that is, as the suffering person, rather than as the angry one.”

~ we are like onions; since at our core is love, we need to keep peeling until we can see it;

~ Charles Eisenstein: Judgment toward them reflects only our lack of understanding, not any fundamental differences in our core being

So when we are angry, when we judge, we are not seeing the essence of the other person, rather the created layers on top…

On Being – Krista Tippett

I’m not sure how i first stumbled upon Krista Tippett and her blog, but it’s gooooood. 🙂

The Disease of being Busy

“In many Muslim cultures, when you want to ask them how they’re doing, you ask: in Arabic, Kayf haal-ik? or, in Persian, Haal-e shomaa chetoreh? How is your haal?

What is this haal that you inquire about? It is the transient state of one’s heart. In reality, we ask, “How is your heart doing at this very moment, at this breath?” When I ask, “How are you?” that is really what I want to know.

I am not asking how many items are on your to-do list, nor asking how many items are in your inbox. I want to know how your heart is doing, at this very moment. Tell me. Tell me your heart is joyous, tell me your heart is aching, tell me your heart is sad, tell me your heart craves a human touch. Examine your own heart, explore your soul, and then tell me something about your heart and your soul.

Tell me you remember you are still a human being, not just a human doing. Tell me you’re more than just a machine, checking off items from your to-do list. Have that conversation, that glance, that touch. Be a healing conversation, one filled with grace and presence.

Put your hand on my arm, look me in the eye, and connect with me for one second. Tell me something about your heart, and awaken my heart. Help me remember that I too am a full and complete human being, a human being who also craves a human touch.”