It’s funny how there are so many “Learn how to say no” books.  duh.  N. O. How hard can that be.  I guess it’s not.  and i’m taking baby steps towards doing so, but the hardest part i think is dealing with the backlash you get when you DO say no.  Saying no isn’t the hard part anymore.  Not feeling like you’re sooo wrong, horrible, and everything bad, in not doing favors for other people is the obstacle.  Maybe i should go to chapters and read a freaking book on how to say no.  sigh.  how sad.

I look at people who are incredibly strong-minded and don’t give a shit what other people think as long as they know they’re right, and sometimes I wish I was like that… something like that quotation… don’t base your reality on other’s opinions of you.  it’s hard when it comes from people close to you though… then it makes me wonder if people are just naturally “takers”… they try to squeeze as much as they can out of the other person.  ha.  funny how one’s outlook to life can be so circumstantial. 

GRR.